I came across this article on the Always Broken Goddess. The future is never set. We have a path that we are walking down. Sometimes, we choose to leave that path for one reason or another; sometimes, something forces us to leave that path. That moment is an ending, but also a beginning, and it is a beginning of so much potential that we are often stymied, paralyzed by the sheer amount of choice, when there are so many options and each of them equally valid and even equally appealing. It's not just one step; it is a whole path you are choosing. It is human nature to remain on a path once we set foot on it unless we have a powerful motivation to change, so it is absolutely, perfectly sensible to be intimidated. However, if we refuse to choose, we end up stuck at the end of a path; no way forward, and wandering back becomes less and less comforting as time goes on. (Note: Sometimes, however, it is good to embrace that journey to the past. Don't let it be one of sorrow, but of genuine curiosity, revisiting the past with new eyes, looking for new information, for things that can be gleaned...you might stumble on a whole new path by doing this.)
I have had reason to contemplate what would happen in my own life if my marriage failed. Like the goddess in the article, I can see the many, many me's that the future could hold. While I have no intention of leaving my marriage; we are very much in love; I can see alternate futures that are nearly as tempting as the one I can expect from the path I am on. I am fortunate in this way; it helps that I'm a seer in general, I imagine.
If you are having trouble seeing your future, find yourself a many sided crystal or mirror. Contemplate your many selves and then shatter the crystal or mirror. See the pieces? There is a you, a whole you, in each one. Contemplate the choices you have and envision the paths that you will walk if you make these choices. Imbue the pieces with these paths so that you can have something to hold and sort and feel. Contemplate what path you want most to go down. Consider the whole path as far as you can imagine it; not just what the end result will be or the immediate future, but as much of it as you can. Give yourself a time limit; an hour, a day, a week...no more than a month or so...for this pondering. Wait too long and your paths will change and you will have to start over. Make a choice. It is YOUR life. It is, and will always be, first and foremost, YOUR life. YOU have the power to choose it; no one else. Make your choice; take your step; find your way forward onto this new path.
The other paths will fall away; that's okay! Some think that every path is followed in some dimension or other; believing this may make letting them go easier. If you don't believe this, understand that, the moment you made your choice, those paths were no longer for you, because you were no longer the same. If you regret your choice, begin again right at that moment to choose a path...get a whole new crystal and everything; it's okay! Nothing is forever; the only constant is change. Embrace this and change becomes easier to effect.
It is a new day. It is always a new day.